Anger is a high potential power-emotion.
Anger reveals your values and exposes a hidden self. Flipping off reckless drivers may not be polite but it says you value your safety. The sad side of anger is it makes you a fool.
Unmanaged anger is scalding, destructive passion. Managed anger drives change by harnessing energy.
The down side of unmanaged anger:
- Motivates reckless behavior.
- Loosens tongues.
- Causes more damage than good.
- Focuses blame on others.
The up side of managed anger:
- Motivates action.
- Fuels courage.
- Clarifies values.
- Intensifies focus.
15 Ways to Deal with Anger:
Contributors on my Facebook page completed the sentence, “I deal with anger by ____:”
- Trying to find the funny or ironic in the middle.
- Getting it out and getting it over quick.
- Riding my bike.
- Thinking of solutions.
- Being sure my brain is thinking before my mouth is moving.
- By putting the energy into positive behavior.
- Walking away and taking time to evaluate.
- By reflecting on my part in the situation.
- Painting, writing about it.
- Seeking advice from a third party.
- Picturing what my grandfather’s reaction would be.
- Checking my ego.
- Too often saying things I regret. (I had to include that one)
- Accepting that I’m angry.
- Depending on the situation, letting it out on the person who screwed up.
When I feel anger’s heat, I call a trusted friend and spew it over him. I tell him exactly what I think, unfiltered. He always does the same thing; he listens and slows me down. He saves me from a world of regret and enables me to identify constructive behaviors.
What advantages and disadvantages of anger do you see?
How do you deal with anger?
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