Bullies aren’t Strong and Compassion isn’t Weak

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Great results require toughness. The belief that compassion is soft and toughness gets results explains why so little compassion exists in organizations.

I’m an either/or type person, it’s my nature. I wrongly believe combining contrasting qualities weakens both. But, toughness and compassion are perfect bedfellows.

Bullies aren’t strong and compassionate leaders aren’t weak.

Toughness infuses compassion with meaning.

Results:

Lowering achievable expectations isn’t compassion; it’s disrespect. Compassionate leaders respect talent by calling people to rise and meet challenges. Stretching is belief in potential.

Conflict:

Compassion’s toughness is seen in conflict. Weakness ignores or runs from conflict. Compassion faces conflict head on.

Inclusion:

Compassion includes super-stars and rising-stars in its inner circle. Reach beyond how others enhance your image; consider how you enhance theirs.

Toughness requires supportive environments.

Heart of compassion:

Compassion springs from authenticity. Phonies fear and reject compassion. Authentic leaders accept their own frailties and abilities, in so doing; they open their hearts to others.

Accepting weaknesses is the first step toward maximizing strengths. Phony leaders don’t accept weaknesses and seldom maximize strengths.

Realize or release:

Compassion realizes potential in others; if not, it reassigns or releases. Expecting achievement extends compassion. “I believe in you,” expresses compassion.

Toughness expects people to pull heavy loads. Compassion pulls with them.

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