Everyone follows someone! Patton had to answer to the President! The President answers to the Senate and the Congress. We all answer to somebody!!!!

One thing I do is no matter what I am doing give it my best shot. Works, REPEAT it as often as possible! What doesn’t seem to work try a couple more times to make sure I am barking up the wrong tree, then try something else.

Plus I start everyday figuring it is gonna be my last. I got 12 or 15 hours to ROCK!!!!

I am a walking talking miracle and should have overdosed or died in a car accident long ago so every second I got is borrowed time so I love my life with eternal gratitude.

A gratitude list is great! If I really need an attitude adjustment I take off my clothes and stare at myself in a mirror. Full length! Doesn’t take long for that to change my attitude. If it doesn’t I turn sideways. That always works to change my perspective.

The other thing is just realize every body else here is stumbling through this life thing just like you.

On the surface it may appear they all got their little duckies in a row. Not! When it is dark and they are alone they are just as confused as you!

Once you realize we are all just nixies on the bus it might help you ease up.

Watching The Big Lebowski over and over helps too. Go to a soup kitchen and help feed others. See others have it much worse than you, cause most do!

Lastly All can teach you if what you really want is to learn. Some what to do and some what not to do. My perception is all up to me.

I am WAY out if the box and not sure if any if that helped you at all! If not what did you ask me for? What were you thinking? Are you serious(McEnroe reference).

If u did help OF COURSE I did, I Rock!!!!!

It is all a crap shoot. Give it all you got. Get to your last breath all used up! Live before you die!!!!! Find out you are capable of much more than u ever imagined. Treat others like you would like to be treated.

Other that that….

The Dude Abides

Shifterp Out!!!

Scott

I really hope you get those books and you read them and it helps you.

Scott

Truth goes through three stages.

1. Ridiculed
2. Violently opposed
3. Accepted as self evident

It is often more helpful not to know many details especially when the answers are so simple and obvious. Outsiders don’t get bogged down with unimportant details.

You talked about all your boss did in your post and almost nothing about what you did about it. Is this making any sense? This happened how long ago and it still bothers you?

Maybe I am the only one willing to say it but I promise I am not the only one who noticed.

I think it might be more helpful for you to look in the mirror cause you reacted to my attempt to help you in the same reactionary manner you described with your boss. Again trying to be helpful and if you feel attacked by that then that is all coming from you.

The common thing with both reactions is they were yours. I meant no harm and yes I respect Dan because it is his blog and a good man.

Regret my sincere attempt to help you seems to have missed the mark.

Scott

Reminded me of a great story…either Anthony Robbins or Napolean Hill…will paraphrase…

These two guys in an elevator..one African American, one Cacausian racist.

The racist looks with down at the other man and says shine my shoes. The other guy gets his hankie out of his shirt and runs the guys shoes. Other people in elevator tell story and it gets around.

African American man, by the way this was in Chicago and the guy was a well known and highly respected man in the community. When asked about why he did what he did he tells his wife he did not see the racist intent, he just figured the guy needed help with something!

Back to me writing….maybe the racist was too fat to reach his feet?

The point is u are only upset if u are upset-able. I am not a victim. I am a volunteer. They can’t push my button unless I let them close to it.

It is not what happens to you that matters to u. It is how you choose to perceive what happens that counts. Then what u choose to do about it.

I am sharing this as much to remind myself as much as anything.

The Dude Abides.

Scott

Every finger I point, points to me. It’s true here. “The more I move away from neediness the more support rises around me.”

Your two sided mirror comment captures the difficulty and opportunity of seeing ourselves when we see those around us. It’s a bit unnerving.

The wisdom of “lean into it for a bit,” shines. The expression, “for a bit” helps us see that we take this medicine in small doses for obvious reasons.

Sometimes I think you see too much.