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Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by Proactive U. (@ProactiveU)

Proactive U. (@ProactiveU) — Fri, 24 May 2013 23:44:12 +0000

Fake it ’till you make it! Often nobody notices the difference.

Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by Scott Powell

Scott Powell — Fri, 24 May 2013 21:48:56 +0000

I hear ya!!!

One thing that intrigues me daily is our conscious mind only operates at about 7% of its potential!!! That means 93% left to find out about!!!!! Wow how exciting is THAT??

Imagine we only knew about 7% of America? The south lets say! Pretty cool places and nc mountains are SWEET!!

Just think though we still would know no Grand Canyon, no Washington state, no Oregon, no Pebble Beach!!! Ya feeling me?

Walking around with thinking you know something with 7%? Lol

Discovering the 93% is where it’s at for me!!!

Have a great weekend!

SP Out!

Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by Scott Powell

Scott Powell — Fri, 24 May 2013 17:53:29 +0000

Great athletes do what before they practice? They think, they decide then they take action.

Muhammad Ali thought he was the greatest before he ever said it out loud!

You gonna tell me you don’t think Money Mayweather is not talking to himself all day long about how great he is? Bottom line till somebody whips him, he is!!!

Tiger Woods sees himself as the greatest golfer ever ? Ask him.

Gretzky, Lawrence Taylor on and on.

Now once you declare your intent yes you got to practice Allen iverson!!!! Hehe

Gladwell Outliers says elite practice their thing 10,000 times till they get there.

None of these achievers started anywhere than at the beginning and they decided how it was gonna be and they went out and proved it. Think first, pretty dog-gone simple.

And ridiculous scoffing at believing when it is not there yet, actually ridiculous. Henry Fords motor….was it there when he wanted it? Nope and according to his engineers could not be built. Jobs inventions at Apple. When he dreamed them up the technology at the time could not build them.

You know what Jobs did? He went and found people who said we believe and we will find the way to create the stuff you are dreaming up. They did, right!!!!! Duh!!!

Just saying everything STARTS with thoughts. Not saying it ends there just saying ANYTHING and EVERYTHING starts there.

And another hope to end ridiculous idea about not repeating to yourself something you do not believe. Everyday in AA we tell people fake it till you make it. Act as if cause where they are at, the complete defeat they feel do not believe one word we share with them. That HAVE to fake what we share with them and say it to themselves long enough for them to be able to begin to believe it.
We love them till they can begin to love themselves but they got to start telling themselves they are ok before they actually believe it.

Just for me I would love to see commenting with no frame of reference to be considered not being done as a good rule of thumb followed by all on this blog! Who agrees?

Somebody starts talking about ways to style your hair, I got almost none so what can I really add to the discussion?

If someone asks about Moscow’s restaurants? Never been there so how do I come up with an opinion I know nothing about?

Anyway hope that simplifies where I am coming from.

Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by Apostle Ricardo 'Reason' Butler

Apostle Ricardo 'Reason' Butler — Fri, 24 May 2013 17:20:34 +0000

I’ve pretended before. But more in the form of faith. Like in way to build confidence when I am afraid of failure (and success). I call myself what I desire to be and seek the education while “pretending” on the way to the reality. I hope that made since. I couldn’t figure out how to word it. lol! Great post! I am posting today something similar that’s why this caught my attention. But I am writing about how David “pretended” to be crazy and mad when Saul was chasing him was not considered being a hypocrite and contrasting that with the hypocrite who pretends.

Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by aaliko

aaliko — Fri, 24 May 2013 17:19:40 +0000

Fantastic conversation and responses! I’m a designer and I can share with you that personally and professionally the ability to ‘pretend’ is very important. There is a ‘pretend’ element to restating my daily measurable goals as if they have already happened. Perhaps what we are discovering here too, is that like the word, “Yes” or “No” or “truth” there are several layers and distinctions that can be made. This is a wonderful opportunity to think bigger and expand upon ideas that I previously thought were not available to me. I say we ALL pretend, at least for 2 minutes!

Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by Dave Franzetta

Dave Franzetta — Fri, 24 May 2013 15:19:19 +0000

Dan, Thanks for the reminder.

Great athletes practice. Star entertainers rehearse. They don’t just play things out in their heads, they go through the motions: they throw the balls, hit the shots, sing the songs, tell the jokes, etc.

Practice or rehearsal with immediate feedback may be one of the very best ways to develop and expand skills.

Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by Kevin Zamora

Kevin Zamora — Fri, 24 May 2013 15:14:47 +0000

I think Scott is right on with the findings. As for being able to self determine when you’re thoughts are “dangerous and delusional”, that would appear difficult. Replace pretending with positive thinking. Nobody likes pretending or even the word pretending.

Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by Susie Demarest

Susie Demarest — Fri, 24 May 2013 15:09:16 +0000

I LOVE that. I DO that, (pretend scenario) and developed the practice with another co-leader years ago. We both work with young children and ‘model’ conflict management language with children involved in various altercations, then we may walk through it with the child prior to them then taking the lead to interact and communicate with the others involved. My colleague and I began to ‘pretend’ the difficult conversations with each others to work through the kinks and reflect on the stumbling blocks or what ifs. I also have had some of these conversations with my young adult children who are in an emotionally blinding situation with college roommate or co-worker, etc.
Love seeing someone describe this strategy so succinctly. Thank you!

Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by Justin Buck

Justin Buck — Fri, 24 May 2013 13:52:50 +0000

This is great advice, Dan. During my commutes to college, I had about an hour and a half to myself in a car each day. During these drives, I often would leave the radio off and think through conflicts that I had experienced or was preparing to experience. It sounds pretty corny, but I used that time to develop my position on several issues and prepare myself for scenarios and contingencies. I would say some of these out loud. Before a conflict or difficult conversation, I would write or work out the top two or three things I wanted to convey. When I got to campus, I would sometimes run an idea by a friend to get an outside opinion. My line of questioning usually included: “Am I wrong to think/feel…?”, “Is it worth confronting…?” I like your idea of including “How does it feel when I say…?”

Another area pretending can help is when you’re mitigating the anxiety of a big presentation or even polishing your speaking/interacting style. During those car rides, there wasn’t always a conflict to work through. Talking to myself made me comfortable with the use of words and phrases; I tried out a lot of “value phrases”. People often say that I always seem to be ready when it’s time to speak or interact at any level. I’m just glad (or I hope) they don’t see me talking to myself rolling down the highway.

Comment on How Pretending Develops Leaders by Scott Powell

Scott Powell — Fri, 24 May 2013 13:08:11 +0000

You are 100% right Dan. What we choose to put in our minds comes with great responsibility. The reason is the machine, our subconscious mind does not know the difference between real and dilusional.

And it is not ME saying that. It is the scientists who study human behavior. Just feel it is important to make that clear. The research is all there not just opinion by me.

We choose what we program in our minds. We choose what we repeat over and over that turns info beliefs.

And what I am hoping to share with you is when you are practicing you are doing exactly what I am saying.

You are choosing what you are going to practice and that all starts with what you are choosing to practice.

I sincerely hope you know I clearly understand how important what people choose to program if you will their minds that turn info thoughts beliefs actions ect ect ect. I get it.

I am just hoping to explain how the mind works whatever information is fed into it.

And like I said I am not making this up, neurolinguistic programming is not anything I made up.

This is an opinion of people who dedicate their lives to understanding how the human mind works. One can agree or disagree with it but that does not change if these scientists are right.

Hope that clarifys what I was sharing.

Thanks, Scott