Posts Tagged ‘regional trauma center’

How to Ignore Others

November 21, 2012

Curt said, “I turn away when they load accident victims in the back. If I looked, the medical team would probably have another patient. I don’t want to know what’s going on back there. I can hear it when things are getting dicey but I try to ignore it.”

On the one year anniversary of the accident, I went looking for the Life Flight crew that saved my life. I found their names and shook hands with the pilot. I hope to thank the nurse and paramedic another time.

Curt is a former military aviator with a clear mission; arrive safely at the regional trauma center. He leverages his strengths while others, in the back, leverage theirs. He always operates at peak performance. Conditions in the back don’t matter.

Turning away enables dispassionate performance. He ignores accident victims because he cares, not because he doesn’t.

4 Benefits of ignoring others:

  1. Staying in your sweet spot. Meddling won’t help.
  2. Freeing others to stay in their sweet spots.
  3. Dispassionate decision-making.
  4. Skillful, consistent execution.

4 Ways to ignore others:

  1. Respect and honor their skills.
  2. Trust them to execute.
  3. Think humbly about yourself. Many over-estimate their competence.
  4. Concentrate on your responsibility.

Like most leadership skills, ignoring others isn’t universal. But, it may apply to you. Have you heard team members say, “Just leave me alone so I can do my job.” It’s one thing to support, encourage, and enable; it’s another to meddle.

Curt said, “I was just doing my job.” I reached out my hand, looked Curt in the eye, and said, “Thank you for doing your job.”

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If you aren’t aware of the accident, “The Reason I haven’t Posted in a Week” will help.

How can leaders balance involvement and non-involvement?

A Persistent Feeling of Frailty

November 19, 2012

The tree won.

November 20th is the one year anniversary of my collision with a tree that nearly killed me. I think of life as BA and AA, Before Accident and After Accident. The tree won, I lost.

I have foggy recollections of a semi-conscious trip in a life-flight helicopter to a regional trauma center. The noise, the pain, the oxygen mask, persistently drip in the back of my mind.

Three months later, friends asked if I felt “funny,” when I started driving again. They gently substituted “funny” for “afraid.”

Frailty persists:

I caught an awkward glimpse of frailty – life slipping away. It doesn’t hit you till later. Every time I leave home, my wife says drive carefully. It’s not casual. She lives BA and AA, too.

Gratitude persists:

I remember the touch of people who rushed to stand beside my bed.

Two college students built a wheel chair ramp. Friends brought food.

My wife put her life on hold for weeks. I remember Mark setting up the Christmas tree while I watched from a wheelchair, my neck brace pushing my chin up.

Online friends led by Jesse Stoner, Lolly Daskal, and Becky Robinson raised $20,000 in two weeks to help with medical expenses

People did things for me that I couldn’t do for myself. I feel the frailty, even now. But there’s more. Gratitude persists. Compassion drips in the back of my mind.

More not less:

In some ways, I’m less than what I was; in others ways I’m more. Compassion expands our worth in the giving and receiving.

The people who cared told me I mattered. Today, I spend more time letting people know they matter.

Here’s my first AA post: The Reason I haven’t Posted in a Week. It’s a little rambling because of medication.


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