Frustration is a good thing?
Frustration, dissatisfaction, disappointment, and discontent are good things, in the face of mediocrity.
I’ll concede that contentment is usually better than frustration. It expresses self-confidence, self-knowledge, and acceptance of the way things are.
On the other hand, I love seeing frustration. I don’t rush to end it. I love it when a project leader is frustrated that things aren’t just right. Frankly, if you aren’t frustrated, I’m frustrated you’ve accepted mediocrity. Passion creates frustration.
3 reasons leaders feel frustration
- Leaders lean toward being control freaks. Trying to control things is frustrating. Yes, I know the only thing I can control is me. I keep telling myself that but somehow it doesn’t always sink in.
- Working to change things is seldom easy and often frustrating.
- When you’re passionate about excellence it’s disappointing to miss it.
I know it’s not popular to confess dissatisfaction and frustration. I know I should have more self-confidence, calmness, and contentment. But I’m not where some think I should be. Frankly, I share their assessment. Sometimes I find my lack of contentment frustrating.
6 ways to deal with frustration
- Shift from I don’t like to I want.
- Shift from the past to the future.
- Focus on what not who.
- Speak your frustrations in safe environment. A friend may help you realize you’re out of balance.
- Frequently stop and celebrate small wins.
- Don’t express disappointment in the heat of the moment. Your outbursts cause people to protect themselves from you.
How do you respond when things aren’t going as well as you hoped?