The Leader You Don’t Like Doesn’t Like You Either

It’s likely that at least 50% of the people on your team are unhappy with their jobs. 65% would like a new boss.**

Leaders don’t like the people they lead, either. Have you heard leaders complaining about colleagues, superiors, or employees? Who hasn’t?

we like those who like us

People don’t leave organizations, they leave people.

Dislike:

We don’t like each other because we don’t trust each other.

  1. She throws people under the bus.
  2. He plays politics and kisses butt.
  3. They’re in a clique.

5 ways to build strong relationships at work:

  1. Lower expectations. You don’t have to be best buddies with colleagues to like them. You connect with some and not with others. Don’t fight it.
  2. Elevate transparency.
    • Tell less – Ask more. When was the last time you asked about where they want to go with their career or project?
    • Show respect. Stop judging others by your strengths. Respect them for theirs.
    • Build positive environments. Don’t begin with, “I’m not happy with our relationship.” Go for a walk and ask, “How might we create an environment where people love to come to work?”
    • Describe, illustrate, and commit to the same high impact behaviors.
  3. Make it normal and nonthreatening to talk about performance. The annual performance review is a colossal waste of time, if it isn’t backed up with daily performance conversations.
    • What’s working? What makes that important?
    • What can we make better, today? How?
    • What’s your team doing that makes you proud?
  4. Choose to care. We like people who care for us. We don’t like people who don’t like us. It’s a choice to seek another’s best interests.
  5. Fixate on strengths more than weaknesses. It’s difficult to like someone when all you think about are their weaknesses.

How might leaders build strong work relationships, today?

**Building Workplace Trust

**Job Satisfaction: 2014 Edition

**⅔ of America Unhappy at Job