Category Archive: Feedback

How to be Authentic Even When You’re Crazy Busy

Unfocused busyness leads to meaningless contribution. You get so busy that you forget who you are and what you’re really trying to accomplish. The secret to meaningful busyness is direction and reflection. Direction:… Continue reading

Solution Saturday: Crying, Anger, and Gossip

Dear Dan, How do you give feedback and not be offensive? There are some people I work with who would gladly take on feedback. Others would take the same feedback and then create… Continue reading

10 Simple Strategies to Improve Performance Conversations and Change Trajectory

Many teams are afraid to discuss the source of success – performance. 10 reasons performance conversations suck: The dynamic is from superior to inferior, rather than partnership.  One person pulls the rope in… Continue reading

The Three-Legged Stool of Effective Performance Conversations

If half-truths are lies, being nice makes us liars. The need to be nice is about: Preventing offense. Keeping the peace. Protecting status. Being liked. Being too nice often includes shading the truth. Too nice:… Continue reading

How to Be Yourself While Becoming Yourself

New behaviors feel like showing up for dinner dressed like Micky Mouse. Frustration and disappointment are more comfortable than the discomfort of feeling inauthentic when you try on new leadership behaviors. People say, “Be yourself.” But how can… Continue reading

7 Questions to Ease the Pain of Giving Negative Feedback

One negative feedback session – done well – has more positive impact than a hundred pats on the back. 7 questions to ease the pain of giving negative feedback: #1. Do you need… Continue reading