15 Ways to tell if someone is Arrogant or Humble
Arrogant people say they believe in humility but their life says they believe in arrogance.
Humble people speak the truth. The temptation to temper the truth and say what others want to hear, for example, is nearly universal. If you’ve found someone who speaks the truth give them a raise. I’ve seen people negotiate how truthful they are going to be with the boss – if you don’t tell, I won’t tell.
One indication arrogance rather than humility dominates is how and when people speak the real truth. People who use anger, bitterness, or feeling offended as fuel to speak the real truth are arrogant not humble. They are more concerned for themselves than others.
15 Ways to spot humility or arrogance:
- Arrogant leaders advance their own agenda by telling others what they want to hear.
- Humble people serve higher purposes – not themselves. They do and say what’s best for others.
- Humble leaders put organizational success before their own. Don’t trust leaders who put their own success above organizational success.
- Humble leaders aren’t climbing the ladder; they are going down the stairs. They aren’t at the top of the heap; they are at the bottom.
- Arrogant leaders emphasize your responsibility to them.
- Humble leaders focus on responsibility to others.
- Arrogant managers don’t have time for people.
- Humble managers value people.
- Arrogant bosses focus more on getting than on giving.
- Arrogant people expect others to serve them.
- Humility serves others.
- Arrogant people brag about themselves.
- Humble people brag about others.
- Arrogance blames.
- Humility takes responsibility.
I believe humility is a virtue and pride is a vice. Humble people strengthen organizations. Arrogant people use organizations.
What suggestions do you have for spotting arrogance or humility?
How can leaders develop humility?
Dare to read more: “Leading yourself into humility.” Humility yields success, arrogance blocks it.